When one day has so much riding on it, it's only natural that tensions can get high and things can become heated. However, the reason a wedding day happens is to celebrate love, so the process of planning it should reflect this. Things don't need to become stressful when you're planning your wedding day with your spouse, but we understand that this is easier said than done. In order to help, we have a list of ways to make your planning go as smoothly as possible, easing the process and ensuring your preparations are as full of joy as the day itself.
Rather than trying to keep tabs on who has dealt with what, a great idea is to set up a wedding email address. This way, all the information and planning that has to do with the wedding simply goes to this address, keeping all the details in one place. A great way to manage this email is by making sure that you only check it together, so both are constantly up to date with the latest happenings. This will make sure no information is overlooked, and make sure that all organization and discussions happen as a team.
Communication is key in a relationship, but if you're getting married you've probably already figured this out. However, when it comes to planning your big event, it's important that these open discussions continue. A useful thing to do before the deep planning begins is to discuss what each of your top three priorities is for the wedding. This can be very useful to know what is most important about the day to both parties, and ensuring that the end result will be satisfying and amazing for both.
Once things start getting down to logistics, it's best to utilize the strengths of each half of the couple to have the most beneficial outcome. For example, if one party has a much more analytical brain they can be in charge of budgeting and accounts, whereas the more creative half of the couple can be in charge of designing and organizing the photographers or decorations. Obviously, continuing consultations with one another are important, but it saves time and energy for both to follow their natural strengths in planning and organization.
Obviously, the budget discussions have to happen before anything else, as this is key in understanding how the wedding will happen and take place and what is feasible to expect. A handy tip to not get carried away or avoid any troubles can be to create a joint bank account simply for wedding expenses, so everything can be transparent and nothing can be lost in between bills for grocery shops or other non-wedding-related expenses. Other than that, the most important thing when budgeting is continuing communication and making sure costs are spread fairly over the preferences of the bride and the groom.
Our last handy tip is to make sure that you've set aside specific times to discuss the wedding. Whether this is a few evenings a week in front of the computer, or over coffee on the weekend, make sure that there are clear times and dates for wedding planning. Keep on checking in that these times are suitable for both parties, and come prepared to the meetings with questions, answers, topics for discussion, and a willingness to work together.